“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6:9 NLT
Sometimes being married makes me weary. I have to remind myself why staying married is a good idea. Have you ever felt this way?
Relationships can be hard. Marriage brings two very different people together. Family dynamics, personalities, brokenness and baggage all bundle beautifully together in this girl or guy of our dreams. The commercial says “when all eyes are on her, she looking at you” and that’s so true. If we are not careful though loving gazes can become the stink eye fast.
It’s all fun and games until you scorch the eggs (when you didn’t even know that’s what brown on the eggs is called) or someone confuses your birthday with your anniversary (disclaimer – this hasn’t happened to me yet but, I have been known to add a little brown to eggs :) ) Add in trying to schedule holidays, hobbies, work and sex – there is no wonder we just get tired of doing good. I mean, why can’t it just be my way, the way I was raised or what works best for my schedule and my body clock?
After thirty seven years of marriage, some of it just not pretty at all, I have learned that not giving up does reap a harvest of blessings. Can I tell you that if you hang on and work together, opposites really can compliment each other in marvelous ways. We really can unpack that family baggage we brought with us and go from playing house to making a home.
Remind yourself today why you fell in love. It’s easy to forget on the hard days. Dr. Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships says, “Value the good. As you honor the other person’s uniqueness, as you value his or her differences, even the traits that irritate you – you create a safe place for your relationship to grow.”
- Why did you choose me?
- Do you feel like I am trying to change “you”?
- How can we value each other’s uniqueness? And, how can we stop minor irritations from escalating into major differences?
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