She was married to a man whose name meant “fool” in Hebrew. He was rude, harsh, selfish and quoting 1 Samuel 25:17, “a worthless man that one cannot speak to him.” The smartest decision Nabal ever made was to marry Abigail.
Have you met this lady? She was intelligent, discerning and oh so beautiful. The day in and day out with Nabal had taught her discretion and sharpened her wits. She was a diplomat – had to be. Survival required it. Probably more than once her badly behaved husband had cost Abigail and her family. Nabal’s dealings with David almost cost her life.
This smart cookie just leaps out of the page for me. I want to know more about her. One short chapter contains this heroine’s story. And, what a story it is.
was trustworthy. The servant immediately knew she was the one to speak with. This lady’s character was well known. I imagine her as a kind, gentle lady who made life bearable for a household who lived in sometimes intolerable circumstances.
thought ahead. The list of provisions she gathered for David and his six hundred is astounding. “two hundred loaves and two skins of wine and five sheep already prepared…and two hundred cakes of figs…” She was a capable mistress for her household. When I read this I am reminded that my family depends on me to not procrastinate. I need to think ahead and honor the commitments I have made.
showed respect for authority. How did Abigail know that David would be king? Had she heard of him and his valor? Did God stir her heart and give her this wisdom? The writer doesn’t tell us but, she knew and she bowed. David was itching for a fight. He had extended good will toward Nabal’s men and flocks with the hopes that good will would be returned. Nabal answered with contempt. Abigail answered with respect. She “hurried and got down from the donkey and fell before David on her face and bowed to the ground.”
Sometimes the rebel in us wants to refuse to honor those God has placed in authority over us. Before we give in to that feeling, that prickly hair on the back of the neck feeling, it will help to pause and think before we act. Paul says in the book of Romans that “…all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God.”
understood the importance of good timing. When Abigail returned from her meeting with David she wanted to speak with her husband. While she was saving Nabal’s life, he was holding a feast and had become drunk. She waited. She knew he needed to be sober to understand how his actions almost cost him his entire household. How many times have I rushed into a conversation when, had I waited for the right timing, the outcome would have been so much better? They are too numerous to count.
Timing is everything. In life, in comedy and in marriage.
In the morning, when the wine had gone out of Nabal, his wife told him these things, and his heart died within him, and he became as a stone. And about ten days later the Lord struck Nabal, and he died.” (ESV)
I don’t know the exact words Abigail used but they had a devastating effect on Nabal. He never recovered. On hearing of his death David said, “Blessed be the Lord who has avenged the insult I received at the hand of Nabal, and has kept back his servant from wrongdoing.”
God used this fearless woman in mighty ways that day. She fought for her family in a way that honored God and won.
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