Do you every wonder if Solomon lived with a quarrelsome and moody wife? I am just speculating here but out of seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines, there was surely a few surly ones in the bunch (1 Kings 11:1-3). What in the world was he thinking? He laments about his struggles at least five times in Proverbs.
Sometimes we just want to be a whiny hiny. And sometimes we feel so unheard that we think repeating, insisting, pleading and well, nagging, will certainly bring action. What’s a girl (or a guy) to do?
Being apart of the solution irons out the deep creases nagging presses in.
Lary and I have both lived in Nagging Nellie’s skin, whether it was his displeasure at my tardiness or my aggravation with his messiness. How do we handle those issues that just drive us crazy?
We take control of our actions. “The reality of boundaries in marriage is that no matter what the issue in your marriage, you need to take the initiative to solve it.” Boundaries In Marriage – Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
Lary began to go to church separately from me and I began to put all of his stuff in his office to wait until he had time to put it away. You know, the out of sight, out of my mind thing. Once we each decided to work on a solution ourselves it sure became much more peaceful. As time has passed, we have both worked harder to be apart of the solution for each other. Giving each other a gift of changing something within ourselves that is really important to the other.
I don’t want to be know as being moody and grumpy, do you? If Lary ever writes a proverb, I don’t want it to read, “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome Carmen in a lovely home.”
Linking with Messy Marriage, Intentionally Pursuing-Intentional Tuesday and, Purposeful Faith-#raralinkup