“Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends”. Proverbs 17:9 (ESV)
Recounting the mess ups of those we love may make for entertaining conversation but that kind of story telling can erode trust and security in our marriages. When those mistakes have made us angry or hurt, the temptation is to vent. Most often, venting brings regret. When we share those feelings with God and limit what we share with others, we honor our spouses.
Lary and I have learned this the painful way. We are still learning these lessons. Sometimes it just seems too funny not to share. I am trying to remember that what I may think is funny, could be very embarrassing to my guy. It helps me to think back on times he has shared in this way and I didn’t like it.
We can make our marriages safe places to discuss our failures and successes. Openly communicating with our spouses about how and when its O.K. to reveal those antidotes and stories with others reduces embarrassment and hurt.
Become your sweetheart’s biggest cheerleader. Let those funny mistakes be a private joke (unless we have permission) and during those painful times, lets talk to each other more than others. When trust and security increase in our marriage, intimacy does too.